Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Or you could show some compassion

Yes its been a while but let us try to hit the ground running as they say (I promise I'll do a summation post of what I've been up to the last few months). But anyway here goes.

So I just saw a write up by Katharine Whitehorn over at The Guardian. In said write up she talks about what men can do to stop female genital mutilation. But she doesn't seem to be very pleased. Take this section right here:
So we have at last some serious public concern about that horror which we now rightly call FGM – female genital mutilation.
Some serious public concern? So fact that this practice is regarded as a crime and violation of human rights in most of the developed world just happened last night or something? If this is still only happening in limited parts of the world then I think we can safely say that "at last" is not a proper way to describe it. Or at the very least here in the States which one is actually a crime and which one can be claimed on health insurance?

She then goes into what I guess could be called lamentation over the way its regarded,
Too often it has gone under the name of "female circumcision", which makes it sound as innocuous as what's done to baby boys, but its actual purpose has been stated as "the control of women's libido".
Oddly I have very rarely heard it called "female circumcision" and have mostly heard it called female genital mutilation. Oh and don't think I missed that about the circumcision of boys but I'll come back to that in a bit.

Next onto a rather "bizarre" fact about this practice.
It really should not be regarded as a women's issue only, though the bizarre aspect of it is that it's other women, "cutters", who actually do the deed.
I think the fact that its women cutting women is only bizarre to people who have wrapped themselves up in a nice cocoon of, "Women don't do stuff like that.". I wonder how bizarre she would think it is that men commit horrible crimes against other men....

But speaking of men she thinks that men may actually have a role to play in this.
Maybe the men have to be brought into the argument to get the whole notion abandoned. (Here's one radical suggestion, not necessarily mine: that for every baby girl who suffers FGM, the law should demand the castration of a senior member of the family concerned. I realise that this is not very likely to gain public approval).
You ever notice that the only time men are included on something is when we are actually useful for the purpose of helping women?

And speaking of radical suggestion I have one too. For every baby boy that has his foreskin taken off at a point in his life when he can't consent to it the law should demand the clitoral hood/foreskin of the parents that chose to have it done. But considering there is a much larger chance of mom still having her clitoral hood than dad having his foreskin I get the feeling that the bodily violation of a woman would cause a lot of outrage (outrage that seems to be missing when talking about the bodily violation of a baby boy).

She ends with some sort of situation that she calls a paradox:
It may be, paradoxically, that only by involving men's desires can it be stopped; only if it is seen to make a girl less attractive to potential husbands will the mothers, ever anxious to marry off their daughters, refuse to let it happen. So men – over to you.
And here's where I came up with the title for this post.

Or when women write articles like this that come off as backhanded calls for support they could show something resembling the compassion that women (rightly) complain about being unfairly stereotyped and burdened with.

I know I would respond a lot better to a woman that can at least look at male circumcision and see it for the violation of a baby boy's body that it is than to a woman that in one breath sweeps male circumcision under the rug then proceeds to call on males to help with FGM.

Is FGM a horrible thing? Yes it is. Should it be stopped? Yes it should. Will you win allies by backhandedly trivializing the issues they face (or is this one of those double standards where women must have their harms fully acknowledge before lending a hand but men must lend a hand before having their harms fully acknowledged)? Highly doubt it.

Maybe once Whitehorn realizes that altering a baby boy's body without medical need is not so "innocuous" maybe she'll get more male support on the situation.

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Would you watch a Twin Peaks revival?

So I'm working my way through old pieces of posts that I never fleshed out and I found this one from last January.

The science fiction blog Airlock Alpha had an article up about a rumor of a Twin Peaks revival.

I was a young man back in 1990 when creator David Lynch introduced the world of Twin Peaks and let me tell you that was some crazy stuff. Way over my head at the time. As time passed I would occasionally catch reruns of the show and would understand a few things I didn't see before but even then that is one odd show.

But could it be revived?

Truthfully I just don't think so.

Back in 1990 when Lynch dropped the mystery of Laura Palmer's murder on us he was breaking a lot of new ground. Odd plot twists. Answers that led to more questions. Music that could get down right creepy and characters that you would not want to meet in real life. In all honesty the bar was a lot lower then that it is now.

With shows like Lost, Supernatural, Revenge, and American Horror Story and video games like Heavy Rain and Alan Wake in our recent memories (and I wager some of these shows pulled influence from Twin Peaks) Lynch would have to take supernatural/suspense/mystery/drama to an entirely new level.

A level that I'm just not sure he could achieve again 25 years later.

And really ask yourself how would you feel if Twin Peaks were revived, just to hear someone call it a rip off of Lost?

What do you think?

Would you watch it?

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Sometimes You Have To Refuse To Pay The Tithing

A while back very long time ago I got involved in a post at Good Men Project that got a bit heated. So heated that the comment section was closed. But that's not what this post is about.

It's about something that happened after it. After (or actually during the heat of that post) I got into an email exchange where things pretty much stayed heated to say the least.

I could feel it.

I could feel that something inside of me that wanted to strike hard.

I could feel that something inside of me that wanted to strike deep.

I could feel that something inside of me that wanted to hurt the person I was exchanging with.

But I held back as best I could. There were a few things I had actually wanted to say to her that served no other purpose than to hurt her. No value in the discussion. No point in furthering understanding. Just a plain desire to know that I said something that would cut her deep.

I didn't because lashing out at her would not have just been useless but would have been downright counterproductive. Such anger would have been an offering. An offering to the Grudge.

As I have said before harsh words meant to hurt feelings are an attempt to feed that inner anger. It's an inner anger that wants to sustain itself by any means necessary. If I had said those mean and pointless things to her the only purpose it would have served would be to keep my own hatred alive (and possibly turn her away).

Monday, February 24, 2014

Day Six - Because Day Five Wasn't That Interesting

Yesterday all I really did was go to the mall and buy some more souvenirs. Not really enough for a post.

Today I kinda realized something.

I really don't have enough room to pack everything I've bought.

I may be carrying an extra bag when I go home.....

Saturday, February 22, 2014

Day Four - A Legend's Grave, Pike Market, and Tetris

So today was my first day off and as such I went to Seattle to do some site seeing.

On the way to Pike Market I took a detour to visit Jimi Hendrix's grave. I've never been much of a fan of Hendrix but his stuff is pretty cool and it was nice to see that people had left offerings (ranging from dice to guitar picks, to coins) and that the site was kept in nice shape.

Next I made my way to Pike Market.

Damn. By yourself you can easily kill several hours if you had people with you it could easily take a day.

I took a few pics of the famous fish market. Lots of stuff to buy but I found it a bit disappointing that the tossing of fish that they are famous for was just for show. Seriously people would just ask them to toss some fish around and they would do it. Feels kinda fake to me. And the prices weren't as bad as I thought they were gonna be.

I found a shop that sold miniature cheesecakes. They are simply divine.

Tasted some hot sauce that the vendor was calling "The World's Hottest Hot Sauce". And I believe him.

Vendors selling all kinds of things from fresh fruit, teas and spices, and even flowers.

There were also crafters. Some were selling belt buckles, leatherwork, sandblasted stones, hand made tie dyed clothes, and a lot more I've forgotten by now.

All in all its nice place to visit and if I get the chance to bring my girlfriend I will come back.

And now I just have to figure out how to fit all the shit I bought into my luggage......