Wednesday, December 31, 2014

I Went to a Party Mom

I'm sure a lot of you are ready to go out and get crazy for New Year's Eve. It's fine to get crazy but be sure not to get too crazy. I would be so happy if there was no death or injury this New Year's. I found this poem a few days years ago in a local paper and it serves as a grim reminder of the damage one can do when they get reckless when drinking and driving.

I Went to a Party Mom

I went to a party, Mom, I remembered what you said.

You told me not to drink, Mom, so I drank soda instead.

I really felt proud inside, Mom, the way you said I would.

I didn’t drink and drive, Mom, even though the others said I should.

I know I did the right thing, Mom, I know you are always right.

Now the party is finally ending, Mom, as everyone is driving out of sight.

As I got into my car, Mom, I knew I’d get home in one piece.

Because of the way you raised me, so responsible and sweet.

I started to drive away, Mom, but as I pulled out into the road, the other car didn’t see me, Mom, and hit me like a load.

As I lay there on the pavement, Mom, I hear the policeman say, the other guy is drunk, Mom, and now I’m the one who will pay.

I’m lying her dying, Mom…I wish you’d get here soon.

How could this happen to me, Mom?

My life just burst like a balloon.

There is blood all around me, Mom, and most of it is mine.

I hear the medic say, Mom, I’ll die in a short time.

I just wanted to tell you, Mom, I swear I didn’t drink.

It was the other, Mom. The others didn’t think.

He was probably at the same party as I.

The only difference is, he drank and I will die.

Why do people drink Mom? It can ruin your whole life.

I’m felling sharp pains now. Pains just like a knife.

The guy who hit me is walking, Mom, and I don’t think it’s fair.

I’m lying here dying and all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry, Mom, Tell Daddy to be brave.

And when I go to heaven, Mom, put “Daddy’s Girl” on my grave.

Someone should have told him, Mom, not to drink and drive.

If only they had told him, Mom, I would still be alive.

My breath is getting shorter, Mom.

I’m becoming very scared.

Please don’t cry for me, Mom.

When I needed you, you were always there.

I have one last question, Mom, before I say goodbye.

I didn’t drink and drive, so why am I the one to die?

Author Unknown

Remember folks. Drink with conviction. Drink with caution. Drink with safety. Drink with responsibility.

Saturday, December 6, 2014

So it was the weight rather than the choke hold?

By now I'm sure you have seen or heard about Eric Garner being choked to death by an NYPD officer back in July. At the start of the confontation there are 2 cops confronting Eric when a third starts choking him from behind. By the end there are 7 cops on the scene plus an 8th that's doing crowd control. There has been a lot of outrage over the decision to not indict the officer that choked him and it seems that there are people in high places that concur.

New York Republican Representative Peter King has looked this over and is apparently in agreement with there being no indictment against the officer and thinks that the reason Garner died was because he was overweight.

This man is honestly saying that his weight is why he died. Not the choke hold. Not the fact that the cops dog piled him to the ground. Not the fact that his face was mashed into the concrete.

I feel like going on a massive rant about how this is fat shaming but I think there's more at work.

I think those in power are running out of excuses.

Running out of excuses to allow such blatant acts of police brutality to continue.

With the decision not to indict the officer who killed Michael Brown (I won't declare former officer Wilson guilty but I do think there are enough inconsistencies to warrant a full trial) race is an extremely hot topic right now. King knows this and is quick to try to remove race from the issue

Notice how he repeatedly states that race had nothing to do with it. He says if it were a fat white guy it would have turned out the same. He mentions that the superior officer at the scene was a black woman. He mentions that minority community members came to the police asking them to do something about Garner selling individual cigarettes outside their businesses.

Absolutely none of that was reason to choke him and mash his face to the ground until he died. Run him off? Sure. Arrest? Go ahead. But kill?

King even tries to say that "if you can't breathe, you can't talk". Did he not notice that Garner's voice was getting progressively weaker as he pleaded for air? Not sure what part of biology he missed but its entirely possible to speak when you're losing air. Your voice will be weak and you won't be able to talk too loud but you'll be able to speak for a moment. I don't know maybe he was expecting him to stay quiet and conserve air. Suffer in silence.

I'm pretty much convinced that he was caught between a rock and a hard place where he needed to both excuse the behavior of the cops and avoid accusations of racism.

Now it is entirely possible that race had nothing to do with this killing. Even if it isn't there are way too many of these killings happening (each word is a link to a different shooting).

Even though police exist to maintain order, to do that there must be "order". And by "order" I mean that the police can't afford too much bad publicity or the people they have sworn to protect and serve will lose faith.

Just look at Ferguson, Missouri. After the decision to not indict was made there has been protest, property damage, and bodily harm. The NYPD can't let that happen in their neck of the woods so its in their best interests to let the death of Eric Garner go unquestioned.

I'm just wondering how long more events like Ferguson can be held off.

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

White Nerd Rage in 5...4...3.....

So today Warner Bros. announced their cast for the upcoming Suicide Squad movie.

Just to get you up to speed real quick the Suicide Squad is a DC comic about ragtag band of criminals who are released from prison to do the really dirty work that no one is supposed to know about. However this dirty work is often the kind you aren't expected to come back from, hence the name of the unit.

Now where's the white nerd rage going to come from you might ask. Wait for it....

This is Floyd Lawton aka Deadshot. A member of the suicide squad slated to appear in the movie.

Here's Deadshot in the game Batman: Arkham City.

This is Deadshot from the Arrow tv series.

This is Deadshot from the comic books.
(Yes the one tied to a chair with the skin's of
the Joker's face over his. Long story.)

So who's playing him in the movie?

As you can see Will Smith is a bit....different from the the existing artwork and Michael Rowe's acting on the Arrow series.

Now at face value I can understand why there would be some outrage. I'll even admit that despite planning on cosplaying Deadshot for a convention next year I have a bit of a problem with this. It goes back to just changing established characters from black to white. 

Yes there is certainly an issue with there not being that many black comic characters and that is something that I'd like to see addressed. I just don't think this is the way to do it. I would like to see more black characters popping up in movies (such as Micheal Jai White who plays Bronze Tiger on the Arrow series and was a member of the Suicide Squad at one point). Maybe we could FINALLY get a Static Shock movie.

However with that aside I know I'll get over this like I did when Michael Clark Duncan was Kingpin and how the mantel of Captain America is being passed on to The Falcon.

And there is no point in ranting and raving about it across the net and there is certainly no point in getting racist about it either.

Honestly I'm not sure of how well Smith will fit the role. He's gonna have to play an objective oriented cold blooded killer. Can he do that? I guess we'll find out.

Saturday, November 15, 2014

Profoundly Simplistic? In Their DNA?

The dynamics of sex, marriage, and dating are rapidly changing these days and in such times of turmoil there are bound to be things said that people don't agree with and things that don't make sense. I think Nicey Nash has said some things that fall into both of those columns.

According to her book, It's Hard To Fight Naked, and a recent interview with Playboy, Nash seems to think that blowjobs and home cooked meals are key to a happy marriage.

While I don't want to deny her experiences I do think that by dispensing this out as relationship advice something very important is being skipped over.

By thinking blowjobs and home cooked meals will keep a man happy in a relationship I think communication is going to suffer big time. But trying to set a solid answer for what will make things work people set themselves up to think they can just follow a guide or read a book and be all set.

Look at some of what may be the basis of her thinking.
A BJ a day keeps the divorce attorney away’ and I say that because I feel like men are profoundly simplistic...
We want to be pleasing by nature, that’s in our DNA...
Men are basic and women have it in their genes to be pleasing.

This sounds like we are locked into a set way. Well we kind of are but I don't think its quite in the DNA of women yet and denying the complexity of men only just encourages us to bury it and deny it in hopes of getting some rather than risk losing it all.

We are set in those ways because of established gender roles. Little but powerful scripts that keep us all in place so that we don't look anywhere but down and don't think to far outside the box.

I worry that telling couples that blowjobs and home cooked meals will do more to reinforce these scripts which in the long run will do the opposite of keeping marriages going. Women acting a certain way because they think that's what they're genetics tell them to do. Men acting a certain way because they think they are too simple to think about something different.

But she does give some advice that not only is worth reading but if implemented across the entire relationship would run counter to her recommendation for keeping the marriage going.
And that’s a conversation that a lot of people dive into but if you’re going to be with someone for the rest of your life and they’re failing to meet your sexual needs is like doing a slow dance with death. We need to make sure we can meet right there in the middle.
Not having your needs and desires met can very well be a slow dance of death for the relationship. It's going to take conversation, speaking up, listening to your partner. Those are the things that need to be done to keep the marriage going, not just assuming he needs a full belly and a blowjob and she needs to be ready to give them.

Hell what if she doesn't like doing oral and hates cooking? What if he doesn't care about receiving oral and enjoys cooking?

This isn't some attack on Nash or a call to boycott her work.

I just disagreed with a portion of her thoughts (and think its worth noting that another portion of her thoughts could actually address the portion I disagree with).

And besides if a marriage is only being kept afloat with oral sex and home cooked meals then it might be best for it to let it sink.

So it's been a while.....

As you've probably noticed its been a while since I last posted. I'll be honest I've been pretty busy with work, wedding planning, family life, trying to get back in gaming and anime, and my pumpkin spice series wasn't getting much in the way of views and response.

Hell I didn't even post on my birthday.

I'm at a point where its becoming difficult to keep this blog going.

I'm not saying this is the end. Just saying it may be a while before I return.